霏楊狂想．馳騁于風

                                                                      
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*留下最美的印象
『甚至是梅林魔術師都無法匹敵的魔力—微笑』
                                                                               
                                                                               
世界上任何一個人都渴望幸福。
                                                                               
而要得到幸福，只有一個方法，那就是先控制自己的思想。
                                                                               
因為快樂、幸福與否，
                                                                               
並不是在於外在處境的變化，
                                                                               
而是在於自己心境的認定。

                                                                                                                      
「每一次你走出門時，先將你的下巴往裡收，而後抬頭、挺胸，
                                                                               
  微笑地同每一位朋友招呼，高興地握手，讓大家領受到你的友善。
                                                                               
  不用擔心別人會誤會，也不要浪費任何一分一秒想像你的敵人如何如何，
                                                                               
  專心地想好自己要做些什麼事，然後朝目標全力去做。
                                                                               
  經常在腦子裡想到那些偉大的人物，學習他們的長處，
                                                                               
  久而久之，你自會變得跟他們一樣受人歡迎。
                                                                               
  思想是絕對的，常常讓自己保持一種樂觀、進取的態度，
                                                                               
  這才是創造生命活力的泉源。
                                                                               
  只要保持信心，需求就可以獲得滿足，期望也可以實現。
                                                                               
  別忘了抬頭、挺胸，笑臉迎人。」

     
                                                                                 
知道嗎？微笑是不需成本，但它的利潤卻永遠是最豐盛的。
                                                                               

                                                                                                                                                         
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*永遠做個好聽眾
『記住：傾聽時的奉承態度，是永遠不會被反對、拒絕的』
                                                                               
                                                                               
注意啊！注意傾聽，真是給對方一種無可比擬喻的讚美，
                                                                               
它帶給人滿足與喜悅，絕不是任何高價的贈與可以比擬的。
        
                                                                        
                                                                            
「商業成功秘訣，並不是什麼神奇的大事，  
                                                                                
  只要懂得傾聽對方發表意見，你就已經佔優勢了。
                                                                               
  因為天底下最令人迷醉的，正是這種專心的傾聽。」



假如你想讓人一見你就如同見鬼神般避之唯恐不及，
                                                                               
最簡單的一個法子，就是：
                                                                               
不管誰講話一概不理，只管滔滔不絕扯自己的事，
                                                                               
並且打斷對方的談話，隨時插進自己的意見。
                                                             
                   
                                                                       
一定得記住一件事：
                                                                               
不管誰跟你說話，他的問題絕對超過你的千百倍重要。
                                                                               
他的牙痛比數千萬待斃的災民嚴重；他的小瘡腫也比日本大地震重要百倍。
                                                                               
只要隨時想到這一點，下一回你再跟別人談話，保證會有一個很意外的收穫。
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                    
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*放棄任何爭論
『對於爭辯，要像對響尾蛇或地震般的避之唯恐不及』
                                                                               
                                                                               
記住啊！無論是何種辯論，到後來都是沒有結果，徒增對方反感而已。
                        
                                                        
                                                                      
你永遠無法從辯論中得到真正的勝利，不論輸贏，你都會失去某些東西！

           

富蘭克林說過：
                                                                               
「爭辯、反駁，偶或能讓你得到一些勝利的快感，但那種快感永遠空洞不實際，
                                                                               
  你仍然沒有得到對方的好感，永遠也沒得到。」
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                      
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*永遠不是敵人
『不要爭論不休，更別當面指出錯誤，永遠沒有敵人』
                                                                               
                                                                               
「我們時常在不知不覺的情況下，改變了自己的意見。
                                                                               
  但是，如果是經由別人指出我們的錯處，
                                                                               
  我們立即會懷恨對方，充滿敵意，然後武裝起來，堅持到底。
                                                                                                                                   
  其實，我們也不是真的在保護自己的想法，
                                                                               
  而只是因為自尊心受到了打擊，才起而抗拒。」


                                                             
「人在生活中，最為看重的莫過於『我』，最為重視的也只有『我的』，
                                                                               
  所有關於『我』或『我的』，絕不容受到一絲侵犯。
                                                                               
  我們的意念不可反駁，否則，
                                                                               
  將會盡一切找尋藉口來保護自己，進而產生爭辯。」
                                                
       
                                                                        
當我們有錯時，只容對自己認錯。對別人卻是誓死堅持不認錯。
                                                                               
尤其是別人一語拆穿我們的錯誤時，
                                                                               
那怕是天大的錯誤，也要力拼到底。 
                                                                                        
倘若是我們對了，就設法以最委婉的方式，使別人贊同我們的意見；
                                                                               
如果是我們錯了，就趕快坦白認錯。
                                                                               
勇於認錯，你會有更驚人的收穫的。
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                    
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*訴諸理性
『一滴蜜捕殺的蒼蠅，要比一加侖毒汁捕殺的更多』
                                                                                
       

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*蘇格拉底的秘密
『以柔克剛，無所不利』
                                                                               
                                                                               
跟別人談話時，一開始不要提出你們意見不同的事。
                                                                               
應該先從雙方都贊同的事情開始談論。
                                                                               
必要的時候，鄭重的表明：雙方的目的完全一樣，只是在方法上稍有差異罷了。
   
                                                                             
                                                              
「花了這麼多年的時間，最後才明白爭辯是無效的，
                                                                               
  要從別人的立場來看事情，設法讓別人多說『是』，那才是最有利的。」
                                                                               

         
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*消除怨言
『人生短暫，不要再浪費時間在我們一點點成就上聒噪不已』
                                                                               
                                                                               
事實上，真要讓他人心服口服，
                                                                               
最好的方法，還是給對方表達自己的意見。
                                                                               
                                                                      
                                                                               
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*如何達到目的
『應付人的成功秘訣，全在於把握別人的觀點』
                                                                               
                                                                               
「先停下來，把對自己關心的程度和對他人態度的淡漠，相互比較一下，
                                                                               
  將心比心，你就能明瞭世界上其他的人也是如此，
                                                                                 
  以後與人相處，就不會那麼武斷、主觀了。」
                                                                               

                                                           
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*引發深處的高尚情操
『規勸的奧義在於利用他人的潤飾說辭』
                                                                               
                                                                               
「碰到這個問題時，就把客人當作是真心、誠實、可靠的，並且是願意付賬的。
                                                                               
  把所有的人當作紳士，激發對方高尚的情操。
                                                                               
  如此一來，大家都會真的以真心、誠實、可靠要求自己了。」